Weight: What’s Eating You? Derek O’Neill
Being overweight when I was a teen I can identify with much of what the author relates in this book. Weight gain and dieting is not easy but losing weight and keeping the pounds from returning even harder. Challenges come at us on a daily basis. Millions of people find themselves on diet plans, using therapeutic approaches to weight loss or refuse or can’t get the real reason behind their weight problems. According to author Derek O’Neill unless you take a careful look into your past, “your emotional connections to food and overall feeling about yourself” you won’t be able to rid yourself of those excess pounds that have become your protection or shield from the truth. The author states that “weight on the mind is weight on the body,” proving it accurate every time. So, what is causing you to eat until you burst, or not eat at all? What happened when you were younger to turn you on or off to food? Some parents force their kids to complete their meal by sending them messages that make them feel guilty if they do not clean their plates. This guilt transcends into their eating habits and some eat so much in order to compensate for others that have nothing.
Parents make comments and in some instances I might add so do brothers and sisters when one sibling is thin and the other overweight. Within the first chapter and the remainder of this guide the author encourages the reader to let go of your negative feelings and statements, check in with your self-image and find out more about who you really are.
There are those that gain weight, others lose it and some go up and down like a yo-yo with no middle ground in site. Fear of failure, fear of success or both seem to have role in weight gain. So, for everyone out there that has ever had a weight problem and wants to find out just how to handle becoming a better and healthier you: find it within yourself to love who you are and take the journey along with others who want to transform themselves but in the right way.
Confidence and acceptance of who you are regardless of you shape, weight or size is paramount to your success. Whether your goal is to lose weight or not you need to find the root or cause what your problem. Achieving good health relies on you, not anyone else, connecting with the world and your relationship to it. So, let’s continue and hopefully by the time you finish reading this book you will have a much clearer picture of how to lose the weight, keep it off and transform yourself to be a better YOU!
Your subconscious can often take over and you might find yourself guided in the wrong direction. What about asking for feedback from others that can help with their objective comments? What about remembering that the best reasons to lose weight and become healthier is to be able to just enjoy and live life. Defeating messages and negative statements need to be melted or chipped away like a sculpture as he chisels and chips away in order to create his work of art. The remainder of the chapter encompasses why weight is a complex issue, the reasons why some people over or under eat and at times the end result creating a situation that is negative in order to seek or not seek attention. Would you believe that someone gained weight, an awful lot to see if her husband would leave her? Others have eaten themselves into oblivion for no reason. Some feel they are not pretty and others undeserving. How to change you will learn but first you need to accept who you are and they way you look right now as being JUST FINE!
As with his book on Anger, Happiness and Depression the author includes a chapter on Attachment and Addiction, which I will leave to the reader to learn more about, followed by a proactive approach to weight. Pages 21-25 will enlighten you. Next, Mindfulness and Mindful Eating: Ask yourself if you are eating because you are really hungry? Do this before you eat. Ask yourself: Do you eat on the run, watching television or on the computer? First, you need to become more mindful or aware of your actions and what you are doing each time you put food into your mouth. Consciousness the author states arises from, “ a connection to the mind that exits in the present and focuses on the creation of new possibilities at any given moment. So, what would be the benefit of taking a mindful approach to eating? That requires a holistic approach. This approach would not only focus on losing weight but on how you control the way you think. Are you preoccupied with food? The rest is quite compelling and the answers to this question and how to learn more about exercising a term that I have become quite familiar and close to WILL POWER! Pages 26-31 you want to make sure you read them. You might want to underline and take notes which is what I do when reading and reviewing a book whose information I want to remember and refer to at another time.
Next, moderation, self-love and making peace with your weight follows and finally the most important chapter: Practical Advice and Tools –A New Way of Eating , A New Way of Life: So, are you ready? Here is what you need to know:
Let’s dispel some myths: all too often it does not matter whether you eat tons or just a little. Some people gain weight or cannot lose it. What kind of food choices to you make and when do you eat? Do you engage in activity besides physical ones? What healthy things do you do? Do you have enough sleep? Do you ever relax or meditate? On pages 38- 43 the author gives the reader many useful suggestions in order to become a healthier person and create better eating habits. For example the second suggestion: Make fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains and plant based, proteins a larger part of your diet. I do not eat red meat or add salt ever so this suggestion was and is easy for me to follow and I love fresh fruits and vegetables. Enjoy your food. All too often we eat too fast or unconsciously. The rest I will not reveal because you, the reader need to take the journey and find out how to make yourself look better, visualize yourself wearing the clothes that would fit you after you attain your goal. The rest: read it. It’s up to you! You can do it? I did. I lost quite a bit of weight after I realized why I had gained and that I was using food to fulfill other needs that I felt were lacking in my life. Stay true to who you are. You are beautiful no matter what others think or say! Love yourself and you will succeed. This is one book that I am going to make sure that I keep close at hand.
Fran Lewis: reviewer