He Did You A Favor: Debra Rogers
Breaking up is not that hard to do and getting over it at times seems harder. But, there are many reasons why men dump women or women dump men and whatever the reason the dumped needs to brush themselves off, stand up tall and move ahead! So, you feel sad, you’ve cried a river and can’t stop the waterworks! Get over it! Because whatever the reason and no matter how much it hurts read my words: HE DID YOU A FAVOR! Now, I will tell you why as author Debra Rogers takes you, the reader into the mindset of someone who has been ditched, dumped or feels like part of their body has been severed and instead of going to therapy, eating your way into oblivion or even feeling you are worthless, read, absorb and learn the hidden secrets between the pages of this outstanding book.
Do you feel lost without him? Are you devastated and feel like someone stuck a knife between your should blades or directly in your heart? Girl, it is time to put away the Kleenex, fix your hair and makeup and throw yourself the biggest and best Pity Party as the road to not caring about this loser begins. But, first some basic rules: Do not call him. Do not try and find out what he’s up to at this very moment. Don’t look at old pictures. Depressed, upset and feeling like your self-esteem is minus 100, don’t! Chapter One explains that this breakup is your wakeup call! Thinking you have lost your true love: NOT SO! “This relationship served you in some way, but it will serve you more by its ending.” Read that Trish has to say on page 11 and then read the DO-YOURSELF-A –FAVOR WORKBOOK YOUR SWEET EPIC PITY PARTY. At the end of each chapter the author summaries her lessons to you, the reader in her DO YOURSELF WORKBOOK. Find out more about how to create your own PITY PARTY on pages 13-14. Next, He did you a favor because you get to purse Mr. Not Worthy! In other words did not contact him! Place him on your do not call list! Cut off emails and any correspondence. Better yet: if you do not delete his number from your phonebook then change his setting to DO NOT ANSWER as his name. Next, delete him from social circles, social media, get a breakup pal and the rest you need to read for yourself. Find out the advice that Julie gives on page 19. How to break up and break free: A FEEL BETTER LIST:
First breathe, next write it down, use self-indulgence to your advantage, and set your mind on the right things. But on page 22 she relates the best recipe for taking care of you! Try it you will feel tons better. Awesome thought changer on page 23 is great. Chapter three focuses on He Did You A Favor Because His Excuse is Your Ticket to Freedom. Chapter four “ He did you a favor because Mistakes Can be Rockin’ Opportunities. Like: Who is he to criticize you and tell you the mistakes he sees in you. Don’t give him to the stupid mistakes you think you made. So, you didn’t lose those ten pounds so what! You do not have to change your appearance or your ways because of someone else! You are you and that’s great! Read the Opportunities Mistakes: the list on page 56 and find out what mistakes you made and need to remember not to do next time or ever again! Like: Do not dump your friends for him! Not being honest with yourself! There’s more you need to read it for yourself or how else will you learn!
Chapter Five is my favorite: We all meet someone that we think is great but in reality he is more dangerous than the venom in a poisonous snake. What is a Toxic relationship and how can you describe Mr. Toxic? Chapter 5 tells all and much more. Like the traffic lights there are warning signs: Yellow Light: Be cautious: Red Light: Danger Zone explanations within the chapter. On page 74 find out how your became imbedded with this poison and how to get the antidote. First: Step out of denial, Pay attention to your own emotional needs practice letting go of any toxic feelings and remind yourself of how great you are. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are wonderful! I DO!
Follow what the author shares on pages 80-81 in the Do Yourself A Favor Workbook: YOU 28 Day Detox. Chapter 6 focus on dating the wrong type and chapter 7 the meaning of Mr. Flip Flop followed by Chapter 8 She Did you A Favor Too!
What about the person who stole your boyfriend? Learn how to deal with this person by remembering: Women cheat for the same reason they shop because they can! Read the tops on pages 120-123 and learn Who Is She Really and realize that she is someone who might feel neglected. She is someone who might be getting back at her husband or boyfriend by cheating on him. She might be unattractive and is using this to make her feel desired even though she is not. Something my mom taught me years ago: just because someone takes your boyfriend does not mean the same thing won’t happen to her! So, Suck it up and move on and remember: By finding compassion you find freedom for yourself.” Read pages 125-127 and find out how Angie handled it. More advice follows in this chapter and if you follow the author’s guidelines you will get stronger and smarter real fast.
Cinderella met the handsome prince at the ball even though her stepmother kept putting obstacles in her way. Cinderella is not living her best life right now; she is waiting for a man to give her a better life.” Find out what happens when Cinderella has things go wrong and learn more about The Princess in You1 Which Princess Are You? the needy one, Stubborn one or the Warrior Princess. I vote for the last read and see why on page 142. Get ready to rock: Princess Awesome. Find out how and then read the workbook pages on 146-149. Learn how to forgive him in Chapter 10 and how your ex-boyfriend may be a better friend in Chapter 11. Celebrate the Most Important Person in the World: YOU! Own your Fabulousness, Your beautiful face and body, sexy attitude and acknowledge why you are great because you are! Remember something that made you happy and do not compare yourself to anyone else. See the beauty in others and receive compliments. It’s simple: Listen; receive the compliment and the rest you are on your own. Finally believe in the life you want and start living it now. Envision what you want, live passionately, what would be your perfect day? Think about it and do it! What’s a simple moment you can relish right now? Eating cheesecake, yogurt or having a shake. Maybe you love walking your dog! The rest of this chapter will give you a definite uplift. Finally, HE DID YOU A FAVOR BECAUSE YOU GET TO SHOP FOR A BETTER MAN!
Read chapter 14 to find out how, why and what’s next for the fabulous you! So, what are 10 Awesome Reasons He did you A Favor”?
I learned to stand up for myself
I learned self-empowerment. But, like any mystery or suspense novel it would not be fair to give away the ending. So, you need to read this chapter for yourself and remember: HE DID YOU A FAVOR!
For anyone who has ever experienced getting dumped, ditched and feels like falling in a hole: STOP RIGHT THERE! PICK UP THIS BOOK: DUST Yourself OFF AND READ! YOU WON’T BE SORRY!
This book is great for young teens that are just starting to date to help them deal with their first relationship and breakup. It is great for adults who are experiencing divorce, separation or boyfriend troubles. It is even great for men who might learn something about how the other half feels and try and transfer some of what the author has shared and pretend they were the one dumped and see how it feels. This is great. So, let’s give the author: FIVE STARS AND FIVE GOLDEN RELATIONSHIPS
Fran Lewis: Reviewer