Even More Vignettes of Yvette at Vi
In this third of four books John and Yvette’s story continues as he realizes that after more than 67 years she would need more care than he could provide. Placing her in the Memory Support Center he realized that this was his best hope for Yvette to have any chance of a life. But, the realities of the situation set in and as the reader begins to understand the drastic changes that would take place John shares how he was able to take her out to eat at times and relived that he would not be far away. What happens when dementia takes over and you realize that someone you love is about to disappear? Not physically of course but in many other ways. Realizing that they were separated for the first time and that at times she wanted to leave the Center and his job was to get her back in, the many bus trips they took joined by staff of the center would prove difficult when over.
The scene is described on page 3 and you have to understand the frustration the she faced, the lack of understanding and how she just wanted to return home. Yvette he learned was needed in her unit many times during the day for medication, dressing wounds and other treatments. Taking her for walks, lunch and other outdoor activities had to be curtailed. But, the author continues formally introduces us to Carmen and shares her relationship with Yvette in Chapter Three. Carmen is rare and amazing and her hours of work, by her own choice, were longer than most. Where as most work 72 hours she covered 80 hours six days a week and on Tuesdays she was off. Working a little more than 13 hours a day. Her schedule and routine are charted on page 7. He continues to explain more about Carmen and you have to know she must love her work and of course Yvette. Marcela Montalvo picked up the days when Carmen was off. When you read the pages that describes her work, her personality and all she did for Yvette you can understand why John was so attached to her, felt like she was his own granddaughter and why he and Yvette adored her so much.
Exercise is vital and keeping up with her bedtime hours and making sure that she did not stay sedentary vital. The first three books focus on keeping her healthy and trying to build up her physical and mental health. Never giving up on her and what I love never giving into to what the doctors had to say or placing her in Hospice, this is a story that will help readers understand the changes that not only Yvette endured but John too. Keeping her in an environment that would allow her to have some type of a regular and meaning life and treating her with respect and dignity is vital to someone with dementia. Imagine those coming from different parts of the world all coming together to help care for some many at the center. Carmen, Marcela and the staff of nurses and caregivers that joined together to make each and every resident more than just comfortable. Yvette’s long term memory seemed sharper at times as she remembers John’s sister and the author shares their relationship and the pictures of Helen with Chapter 9. Like sisters and playing tennis and her emails Helen might be in her upper years but she has not list her vim and vigor. Walking miles for Yvette’s smiles explains just how important she is to John and how far he would go to just see her pretty face and smile. Carmen, Yvette and Neuroplasticity is quite interesting and will enlighten readers to a “ new science that claims our brains are malleable-capable of being constantly changed throughout our entire lives. The method and reasoning is explained and groundbreaking on pages 36-37. But, Pneumonia would not keep her down and with the right care for some reason she bounced back even better. Read chapter 14 and learn just how far Yvette would fight to live and prove the doctors wrong. The final chapter Together Again is quite compelling as Yvette would suddenly turn to John and look into his eyes as she would somehow remember something and realize that they were once again together.
Her memories might fade. Her voice might not be as loud but her love for John will always be as strong as the brightest star in the sky. Once again author John Gurley shares his thoughts, his heart and his love for a wife that would be his only love now and forever.
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