Children are expected to follow the rules except when they don’t. Jackson is a typical boy who has his good days and not so good ones. At times his temper flares and instead of close his eyes and counting to ten or just taking a deep breath to calm down he explodes. He can hit or fight with the person who gets him angry or yell and scream. When this happens in school he winds up sitting in the time out chair to help settle him down but the expression on his face says it all.
Jackson hates homework, waiting for things he wants and like a lot of children doing chores. His bedroom is his center and when he gets sent there it’s okay because he can discuss his problems with his pet fish, Dragon.
This is what he related : he was lining up for recess when Lucas cut in front of him and that’s when things got out of control. A fight and Lucas is sent to the nurse and he was sent to the Vacation Station Spot where kids are sent to think about their behavior. Hoping his mother did not find out but fortunately she did not and the following day he followed all the rules.
Little brothers can be a pain and when Jackson uses his Legos to build an amazing tower to show his mom the end result was his brother wanted to help but all chaos broke out and no more tower but two big time outs. One for him and one for his brother. The illustrations are perfect and you can see their facial expressions. Jackson’s time out was longer because he had to show better behavior.
Mom needed time herself to cool off and then they had a talk about why she was disappointed and how he could handle things the next time he was boiling mad. The rest of the day you can read for yourself as there were good times and boring ones but no time outs until his mother sensed an impending explosion and suggested he go to his room to calm down.
The authors created an inventive way for Jackson and other children to release their anger and tension without hurting themselves or anyone else. The Frustration Fixer Box that he made with his dad was the answer. On page 26 Jackson will share with everyone what he put in it and then you can create your own.
After letting out his anger he went and said his sorries and he even behaved for a long time. He’s a regular kid who get angry like when his parents tell him they are going to the park and they don’t go. When a friend is busy and can’t come over or when his mom says no to junk food. Find out what he does to settle himself down in page19 that will help you too .
Family time is great but not when you spend it in time out. Everyone was watching a video and Jackson heard the laughing and it made him wish he could go back and undo his misdeed. He did not want the whole world mad at him. Real Otha time following the rules was the way to go find out how Jackson deals with his anger and what he has learned. Learn about how he feels about himself on page 23 learn the valuable lessons he learned.
The authors share on page 24 their views on time out as opposed to other consequences. The illustrations show different people that can work with both children and adults to deal with anger. Hear what Jackson says about himself on page 25 as the authors share his final revelations and like all mysteries you have to read the book and take the journey along with Jackson to find out the end result.
There is a resource included titled: Parent Guide to Effective Behavioral Management and a glossary if terms explaining different definitions for both positive and negative reinforcement. A biography of both authors and other valuable books to read on other important issues.
Laurie and Fred Zelinger PH.D
created a perfect resource for parents and educators to deal with positive and negative behaviors of not only younger children but older ones too. Guidance counselors and teachers can use the behavioral management guide as well as discussion groups. So Jackson great job telling your story and even better: let’s hope in one had to Please explain time out to Jackson anymore! Told from a child’s point of view which will help children relate better to the messages in this great resource.
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